One of the things I love about my life is that I get to wake up every morning and work on things I’m passionate about. I get to write empowering editorials. I get to create new things on a daily basis. And I get to inspire and makes someone’s life a bit more fulfilled. My life is on the right track for success but it wasn’t always that way.
Growing up, my mother would always tell me not to worry about what others thought of me. But somehow during my road to adulthood, I didn’t listen to what she had to say. Which led me to allowing others to dictate who I was. I began to try to fit in and not stand out the way God intended. I second guessed everything and thought nothing I did or said was good enough. This went on for awhile until in my late 20’s I remembered my mothers advice. And I knew exactly what I had to do. I learned not to give a f*ck about what others thought of me.
Living your life for someone else, and not for yourself, will never bring you happiness. It can be compared to someone being the puppet master of your own life. Or someone producing your life as if it’s a show for ratings. Since you are the only person that can be happy with your life, then you must learn to have a healthy dose of the “not give a f*ck”. How do you do that?
Rather than worry about fitting in, focus on you. Unplug from life. Try new things. Discover who you are and what makes you happy. Stop looking over your shoulder waiting for a critique from people who have f*cked up lives of their own. Instead, design your own life. Wake up and decide to only do what makes you happy. That may not sound simple at first but remember it takes anywhere from 18 to 254 days to form a habit. And this is a habit you should make an effort to form.
You should also make a conscience effort to get rid of the things in your life that don’t make you happy. Do you remember the game, “Which one doesn’t belong?” You have to drop one of the pictures that doesn’t match with the others. And that’s exactly how you have to treat your life. If you have someone in your life that doesn’t belong, why are they still there? If you’re trying to be a successful you, you can’t drag them up the hill to greatness with you. You have to kick their ass off the ride or you won’t become successful yourself. If you don’t, you’ll worry about what they think and never realize your own potential.
Learning not to give a f*ck about what others think of you is a must to survive in this life. And you should never allow someone else to have a say in who you become. The only voice that matters should be yours. So the next time someone tries to tell you who you should be, adapt the same motto I did. Don’t give a f*ck about their opinion and form your own about yourself.